Let Them Hate…Just Make Sure They Spell Your Name Right

‘If you’re not hated, then you’re not truly loved.’

Jessica Walsh, one of the brightest creatives on this planet, once said this.

And let me tell you, I clutch onto that sentence like a child clutching onto their parents hands on the first day of school.

I love it and I will die on that hill.

I found myself repeating this mantra recently after a run in with someone on TikTok. You know the drill. Someone posted a nasty comment, which was actually a totally uncalled for accusation, disguised as an ‘observation’.

Initially, the encounter triggered me.

Like, fuck off moral high ground. Who the hell are YOU?

I could feel my blood boiling. Actually boiling. I was raging.

It was so uncalled for, so unjust and so unbelievably incorrect.

I want to clap back, roast as hard as I could, and send the offender a chocolate dick for them to choke on.

You know.

The usual.

But instead of express delivering said choc peen, I did something else.

I brushed it off.

Because it meant nothing to me.

I don’t create content for THEM.

But I was SO. MAD.

This is where the never ending torture of being online comes into play.

It doesn’t matter what you do or who you are, you are never, ever getting back together going to please everyone.

And why would you want to please all these assholes anyway?

For every single person who dislikes what you’re doing, saying, wearing, writing, creating, there are dozens of people waiting in the wings that support you.

They just might not be as vocal as the haters.

When you put your bright, beautiful self out in this unforgiving world, there will ALWAYS be haters.

People trying to tear you down.

Reject you.

Those who are annoyed at your success, jealous of your ideas, envious of your ambition… and then there are those who will just be an asshole for assholes sake.

Don’t let them stop you.

Quieten you down.

Shrink you.

Because what about all those who you’ve influenced in a positive way?

The ones who you’ve inspired. The ones who you gave valuable advice too.

And what about the ones who changed the way they think because of something you wrote or said?

Or the ones who you helped give courage to?

Or maybe it isn’t even that deep.

Maybe you helped someone via your online tutorials, like applying make-up, or styling an outfit.

It’s those people that matter.

Because for every hater out there, there is someone you’ve made stand up a little taller.

Made them bolder.

More confident.

Less afraid.

Gave them permission to try something new.

To just show up simply by being themselves.

You have the right to create what you want to create.

Just because someone doesn’t agree with the way you go about it, doesn’t make it wrong, or signal that it sucks.

It just means that it’s actually having impact.

This is why I write and create content.

To have impact. And it’s a beacon out there to others that might be like me.

I put my heart and soul into the content I create for those who are similar to me.

So if you’ve ever been on the receiving end of any hate or resistance, tell them it’s okay to hate… just make sure they spell your name right.

Because you aren’t going anywhere.